I can say that I was happy during my first 4 years of marriage, since then it's always down hill. Last year things got a bit better, not with my husband who continues being a drunk, lazy bastard but because my brother got out of jail and came living with my husband and me. Before he was arrested we had an affair that we now continue after 7 years apart. My husband gets home drunk every night drunk and he doesn't even notice when I leave the bed to go to my brother's bedroom.